Many of us find ourselves stuck right where we are because we fear change. Often, even though our heart wants us to become more and do more, our mind tell us that where we are is just enough. Aligning the mind and heart to help you take that step towards achieving your greatest dream or vision is Jennifer Urezzio’s lifework. Jennifer is the founder of Soul Language and a master intuitive who uses her intuitive skills to help raise consciousness. Jennifer is all about creating success by helping the mind follow the heart – or “putting tangibility to your soul”. She tells us how she came upon this realization through the various pivots she took in her own journey. Jennifer shares how to dive deeper within and allow ourselves that opportunity to feel bliss.
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Aligning Your Mind, Heart, And Soul with Jennifer Urezzio
I am feeling wonderful. I’ve got an incredible guest to share with you. Before we get there, I want to take a moment to ground myself and remind all of us how important it is that we are reminded. A reminder of the reminder to be grateful for this moment is important. I know that we all have many things we can be appreciative of and be grateful for. We’ve come through a traditional time of the year when people are focused on gratitude and giving thanks. It’s an interesting thing because I love all the holiday seasons and yet I think to myself, “Wouldn’t it be great if we live that way all the time?”
Does it take a holiday to bring us to the point of remembrance for various things? Why can’t it be that we live with gratitude as an example each and every day so that we get the benefits that we’ve been experiencing? This feeling of appreciation and even in the midst of challenge, change, struggle, death or any of the other things that get in the way of our peace or get in the way of our happiness. We can transcend those things through gratitude and through gratitude practice. This is a reminder to me as I get to also remind others in our community that now is a great day to be grateful. It doesn’t take a designated holiday to give us permission for that gratitude to be a part of our experience and for each of us to give ourselves that gift. Ultimately what we’re talking about is our own personal opportunity, our responsibility and the permission we either give or deny ourselves to feel good at the moment about our lives regardless of the circumstances.
I am excited that I have got an incredible guest. Somebody who I found we have mutual friends. It’s always nice when those synergies pop up and never a coincidence either. I don’t believe in anything that’s random in the world and the universe. Jennifer Urezzio is the Founder of Soul Language and a master intuitive who uses her intuitive skills to help raise consciousness. Soul Language is a paradigm to put tangibility to the soul. She is the author of two books, Soul Language: Consciously Connecting with Your Soul for Success and A Little Book of Prayers. You can learn more about her at SoulLanguage.us. Without further ado, Jennifer, it’s great to have you on the show and welcome. Thanks for being with us.
Thank you so much. I’m excited to be here. I love your opening thing about gratitude. I have traditionally in my life done drive-by gratitude. I’ve had to work on gratitude. Drive-by gratitude is like, “God, thank you for blah-blah-blah, but by the way, I don’t have blah-blah-blah.” Gratitude is an ongoing practice for me because I tend to skip that sacred part.
I believe we all do that. I don’t think this is a unique thing. We take things for granted not necessarily in some negative way. I don’t think people wake up in the morning and they put their feet on the floor and go, “I’m going to take everything for granted. I’m going to take my breathing for granted, my body, my friendships and my family.” We don’t do that. We live our lives and go about doing things that are in the moment required. The triage of daily living but we can take a different approach to it. Before we get into a little bit of your work and the pivots that you’ve experienced in your life, I would love to know what’s not written in that introduction. What’s not written in that bio that you’d love for people to know about you?
There’s a lot not written in that bio. I used to joke around in Corporate America about how I couldn’t talk to clients because I would tell them the truth. I get paid to help people discover their truth and to help them tell the truth to themselves and I get paid to listen. What’s not in that bio is I am always pushing the innovation box. I’m a huge creator of tools, worksheets and programs. I think that we’re all creative beings. There are a lot of us out there that are constantly creating and don’t know how to understand what to do with all those creations. They leave all of these little babies all over the place without any proper nurturing. One of the things I’m good at is helping people understand how to nurture all their creations. That’s not in my bio. How do you put that in a bio?
Nurturing creativity is a beautiful thing to be known for and a great legacy. Let’s get into a bit of your pivot story. Take us back as far as you want. Our community is used to hearing the stories of the good, the bad, the ugly and we all love these stories. They tell us we’re not alone and they’re super interesting. They teach a lot as is the case with most of our even more vulnerable moments in life. Take us anyplace you like.
The one that popped into my head is the major pivot I did coming out of art school. I went to art school for photography and the reasons why I didn’t pursue that was because I was uncomfortable being vulnerable in the spotlight and you have to be completely raw as an artist. The first pivot was, “I have a degree. What do I do with that?” I didn’t want to work in a studio. I couldn’t see starving for being an artist. I did a major pivot. I have this tenacity about writing my own history and writing my own destiny. I decided I was going to work in public relations and I knew nothing about it. People were like, “Public relations, what is that?” My family would go and I would stumble across my words. The first major pivot was like, “I know in my soul I’m an artist but I can’t do that. What can I do to utilize all of my gifts and talents? Which direction will that be?” The huge pivot was stepping into Corporate America which doesn’t seem like a huge pivot to people who’ve been in Corporate America but I’m a renegade.
To be in Corporate America and to adopt that way a little was such a huge mindset and adjustment. I was walking on a different floor for me. I had to learn how to manage up. I’m a great manager down but managing up, I sucked at it. They would be like, “You know you’re crazy. You know we can’t make a round box square. You know that FTD, working on this program 72 hours and revising it 85 million times, you’re going to lose this account. You’ve already lost it,” and so to manage up was a huge pivot in my life. When I said to my mom, “I took a job in Corporate America,” she was shocked. I made it work for several years, but the way I made it work was every time I wanted something different, I wrote my job description for companies and I went for it.
I’m not sure if everybody understands entirely the distinction between managing up and managing down. We definitely understand what it’s like sometimes when our parents don’t get us or don’t get what we’re up to. They tilt their head on the side or our family does. Please unpack that a little bit for us.
I was a great manager for my team. I always was for the underdog. I would support them. I stood by them. I wasn’t the type of manager that would go, get it done and I would leave. I was the first one there and the last one to leave. I wanted to make sure that every member of my team was listened to and was getting their needs met. Managing up which means managing whose managing you was traditionally difficult for me because I was never someone who would say yes. Sometimes in Corporate America, managing up you have to say yes a lot more than I was comfortable. I would go, “Yeah, but. Maybe yeah, no but’s.” The managing up was traditionally hard.
I had a practice and my community will laugh at this because I had to practice my pass the butter voice and I mastered the pass the butter voice. I can say FU to someone in my pass the butter voice which means, “Can you pass the butter,” and nobody knows I’m doing it. That was a key to get my point across with honey versus with vinegar. That’s the key to managing up. As a little kid, my mother always said that to me and I never firmly grasped what she was talking about. Until I started to be able to do that with my superiors and go, “I understand what you want, but here’s a different way of doing it that this way is going to work.” I became a valuable asset to my superiors because I would see things in a clearer way and in a straight path rather than the traditional way they knew, or they wanted to get done which was mostly impossible.
Is there an element of managing up that involves your being available to receive mentorship and guidance? I’m trying to get a sense of, “Were you coachable? Weren’t you coachable?”
Back then, I was always coachable if you use the right phrase.
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Some people are probably laughing and I hope they are. I hope you guys are because how funny is that? How often that when we say to ourselves, “I am coachable as long as you approached me the way I want to be approached.”
If you didn’t tell me what to do, if you valued my opinion, if it was a discussion I was right there.
If I knew you trust me, you’re not micromanaging me. You’re looking out for my best interest.
If you told me what to do, if it was your way or the highway, that never worked. The lucky thing, the amazing thing was I was good at my job that I could write my own ticket with it because I was that good. I had parts of my job as a media relations specialist, other media relations specialist had to write. I didn’t have to write because I crafted my job so I didn’t have to do it. When you have people in your life that can see the goodness of you is so key to success. Back then, I was a steel marshmallow. I had that steel externally but inside I was a giant marshmallow. If you knew that I was a giant marshmallow, then you could totally work with that. If you saw the steel and wanted the steel to be different then there was going to be friction.
When you were speaking about how good you were at what you did, I also wanted to say, you were exhausted as well.
I was working at twelve. It was funny when I think about it now. Prior to a big campaign, before I would have to get on the phone, I would lose my voice for fifteen minutes. I know what that’s about now spiritually. I was exhausted and I was the answer girl like I am now but in a different way. People all over the office would go, “Jen, do you know about?” They would go off, they would research, they would come back and be like, “How’d you know that?” I was like, “I don’t know.” I was using my intuition. I was my life purpose in Corporate America, it just was a sucky delivery system. Now I’m my life purpose with an amazing delivery system. Often pivots come when people are starting to align their sacred purpose and their delivery system at the same time. Most people go about trying to find their life purpose based on a delivery system and not on their sacred purpose and they get into some rocky areas because of it.
That resonated with me deeply because in many ways when I look back on my history. I was a lawyer for eighteen years. You were in Corporate America for seventeen years. Maybe that’s the incubation period for figuring stuff out. I don’t know or for misery but probably for the last few years of my career, I knew something was off. To put your language to what was off, I often articulated it a little bit differently, but I love how you framed it so I’m going to borrow your framing here. The delivery system was not aligned for me. As it turns out, when I look back now a few years after I closed my law practice, I’m still teaching. I was doing then as a lawyer and I used to call myself a counselor-at-law not an attorney-at-law because the counseling part was the part I loved the most. It was working with people to resolve their challenges. It was a great business model because people are riddled with challenges, they’re riddled with problems.
For me to be a problem solver and get paid well to do it was great but the delivery mechanism, the system sucked and you used the word sucky delivery system. The law for me was a sucky delivery system. Whereas the transition out of that into the work that I do now, speaking all around the world, training other people to speak and curating a community of people who are pivoting in their lives, this is a different delivery system. One that I wake up in the morning and instead of feeling dread about the day ahead, I feel joy. I feel the inspiration to start. Why don’t we fast forward to that same point in time, the inflection point, the pivot point where you decided to leave Corporate America. Did you immediately transition into the correct delivery system? Were there a few pivots along for the way before that?
As everything happens, you sometimes only can see in my verbiage how God works when you’re past that point. I was asked to speak at a conference about essential oils and life purpose. I was still working with my best friend in her PR firm. I got up on stage, I did my thing, I got off and there were people lined up to talk to me. I was like, “What’s going on?” People were like, “Can you help me? Can I be your client?” I was like, “Let’s do it.” In tandem when that was happening, at one point during my PR career, we had this internationally known coach. I spent two hours on the phone with her counseling her about her relationship with her daughter.
The next week she fired us and she said to me, “I didn’t know who she was or her business.” I did. I saw a bell on the curtain and she couldn’t take it. That was the moment I turned to my best friend who was my boss and I said, “In a few months, I’m going to go freelance.” She was like, “Great.” At the same time of that speaking engagement, the few months was rolling around. She was like, “Are you going freelance?” I was like, “What are you talking about?” I’ve already made plans. She didn’t make any plans. It was that lovingly push out into the universe. I went freelance and I was doing some PR work for her and taking on these clients. What I noticed was on the PR days I was crying a lot and I don’t cry. I was angry. Someone had offered me a $25,000 PR job which would have paid a lot of bills for a long time. I had to make a decision then and there is what I want to do, how I want to be, my own sanity, was it worth the $25,000 or was I going to pivot and take a leap of faith? I made that decision and I’ve never regretted it.
That was a huge pivot. It was a pivot of jumping out and freelancing. It was another pivot of saying, “I’m not going to do that.” It was another pivot which I think is the biggest pivot of all of trusting. If we’re going to think about it, I pivot all day long because there’s always some area or someplace you have to turn to and trust. That’s a huge practice and it’s a huge opportunity for a lot of amazing things to happen. The moment I turned down that job, I got three new clients which equal $25,000. I was like, “This can be real.” Part of the pivot process is not trusting that it’s all going to work out, but it also understands that you’re being guided in that pivoting process that you’re not alone. Often when we pivot, we think, “No one’s ever done this. I’m totally alone.” We tend to make up those bad stories in our head and instead of going, “I’ve done this pivot before. The circumstances are different. The reason why we pivot is always the same.”
What do you think the reason is that we always pivot?
It’s always for expansion and always to bring more goodness into our lives.
It doesn’t always feel true.
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When it doesn’t feel good, that’s an indication at the moment when it doesn’t feel good when you’re on the floor in the fetal position eating cheese because that’s what I do when I’m upset. That’s how you know you’re on the right track.
It’s counterintuitive because I’ll never forget the day that I closed my law practice. After several years of practice, we finally got to the point where we were closing. This was the mile marker in my pivot was having created a plan B. I wasn’t the person who does what some advocate which is jump ship and tell your boss, “I’m quitting,” jump off the cliff because the parachute will appear. I’m much more conservative and I also had a lot of responsibility at the time. Like we all do, being with four kids, two dogs and we had a gerbil and a goldfish, a lot of living beings that were my responsibility, including a lot of clients. It took a few years for me to pivot out of and wind down my practice but when we were closing it. I remember the Shred-it truck was sitting out in front of the office for two whole days and they shredded ten years of documents that I no longer needed to keep.
I was in the office, everything was cleared out, all the furniture, all the file cabinets and I was lying in the fetal position in the middle of the vestibule and writhing in pain. It was the end of an era. There was a great deal of unknown on the road ahead. There’s that fear of what we don’t know or what I didn’t know at the time. The devil you know maybe sucks but at least you know what you’ve got. This was completely an unknown road. I can identify with that description. You end up following that path and where you said the pivot of trust is important because that’s the biggest challenge for folks.
People reading this, if you knew that it would all work out, that starting your side hustle would work out. That starting that business you’ve always wanted to start or changing jobs, changing careers, doing something else that you would love. Whether it’s to go travel or it’s to live out your calling to be an artist whatever that might look like for you. If you knew it would absolutely work out as in you would not be destitute, homeless, dead or otherwise despised, you wouldn’t lose all respect. Quite the contrary in your experience of living would be enhanced in ways that you can’t even imagine. Your connection to yourself, your trust in yourself, your trust in the universe, your connection to spirit that all that would enliven as a result of moving forward without the benefit of 100% certainty everybody would do it.
There’s this misconception about trust. People think that it’s like eye color and you should have it. Trust is active participation. Like faith, it’s active participation. It is choosing. It is something that you get to activate and turn to. I always use my body’s divine intelligence, filming with a feeling and knowing of trust and I’ll do that until I can feel my energy shift. Sometimes, especially in a major pivot, I have to do that a million times a minute. We’re so hard on ourselves that people are like, “I wish I could trust more.” Every opportunity’s an opportunity for you to choose trust especially when you’re moving through a huge change. It’s about finding that place in you and everyone has that place where it’s never going to hurt. It knows it’s whole and complete. Tuning into that place and being guided by that. We do have a lot of chatter. I had a cat and a rented apartment. I didn’t have kids and a car lease.
What’s the worst that can happen? I didn’t have a family to take care of. My fear was huge but it was a lot less fear than you had because I wasn’t responsible for other people’s lives. It’s about understanding your greatest strength in that core belief that’s unbeatable. My core belief that’s unbeatable gets me through any pivot is I know I have courage. You have to determine what your core belief is of good and sit in it. We all have that challenge limiting belief. Often there’s this protocol of spirituality about eradicating that limiting belief. That limiting belief is there for a friend. It’s there as a signal for you to choose something bigger. When fear, when lack, when not good enough shows up, I know that that’s an opportunity for me to go, “I’m going to make the choice to trust. I’m going to make the choice to do a ritual, do a sacred practice. I’m going to call someone. I’m going to sit down in my courage.” There’s a roadmap to completing a pivot. You need to find out what your roadmap is and if you analyze any pivot you have done before, a lot of those clues will be in there for you.
There’s no question that looking back at the road behind us is incredible. It is the crystal ball. People say, “I don’t have a crystal ball.” I call BS on that because we all have a crystal ball and it is counterintuitive. It’s personal development 101 to say, “Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t.” I remember learning that early on the path for me and it’s true on a level and it’s also misleading on a level. People are taught and trained not to look at what doesn’t work. I love this turn of phrase, “When you know what doesn’t, you know what does work. When you know what you don’t want, you also know what you do want.” It’s this idea that to look at your limiting beliefs, for example, with the eye towards eradicating them is fine.
There is nothing wrong with that I suppose, but to also look at them with an eye toward gaining clarity on what it is that you want to believe about yourself. Oftentimes in our work, we train speakers. When you talk about a roadmap and a plan, that’s exactly what pivot is. The book is that roadmap looking backward. I made these pivots and then I realized there was a roadmap in looking in the rearview mirror. I had a crystal ball for exactly what we did, and I thought, “Let’s share this with people,” and then ultimately like you say, “The bigger game was we got to share it with the world and still do.” That book is widely sold every day which is a wonderful thing.
We also started to examine the other folks, the case studies that we could get our hands on and people who’d pivoted and looked back in the rearview mirror as well and said, “Where are the commonalities here? What are the common denominators in what they did to successfully navigate their own pivots?” That was cool. What is neat about what you’ve brought up is we talk in a different arena, this public speaking arena about developing and getting clarity on your core message. Many people are not clear on their core message which means we can’t position, you can’t position yourself. When people can’t position you if you don’t understand your core message or your brand promise, there are lots of ways to put it. What’s neat to me is the idea of what’s your core belief.
Looking at what your limiting beliefs are which might have to do with worthiness, deservedness, self-love any number of things. You’re not smart enough, not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough whatever those beliefs might be and then saying, “What is my core belief? Knowing that these are limiting beliefs. What is a core belief that I can see clearly now that would help me to transcend those limiting beliefs?” Your core belief is that I know I have courage, thinking about the fact that we are constantly pivoting. My son Max said, “Dad, we’re always involved in micro pivots.” I said, “What do you mean about that?” He goes, “Pivot is such a big word and people think, ‘A pivot is like I’ve got to quit my job and move to Fiji or something,’” but we really are pivoting constantly. It’s a mindset. Like, “I’ve got a messy thought. I’m thinking negatively. I’m in the past, I’m regretting something. I’m resenting. I’m hating on somebody or I’m comparing myself to someone else. Instead of looking down the road ahead for myself and moving forward, I’m looking to the right and I’m looking to the left, etc. just making a change at the moment.
It’s huge. I think often people are looking for the golden ticket. You’ve won the game, the golden ticket. My life, I can tell you the golden ticket moments but the little moments, the little pivots have had a huge impact and they led up to the golden ticket moments. I’m conscious about making that conscious choice every moment and the conscious choice is based on that core belief. “Am I courageous? Am I going to work through this? You bet. Am I going to face my life now?” “Of course.” It allows you to tune into something higher. I had a mentor that told me once, pain is boring. Everyone’s pain is the same. It’s different circumstances. What’s interesting about human beings is that connection because everyone connects differently and everyone describes it differently. How we come out of the pivot, how we navigate, it’s exciting. That is about the combination of soul and humanness working together to triumph. That’s what is exciting when I talk to people about transformation because that’s where the gold is. Tell me more about that. All of the failures, you just missed the mark. We need to go a little left or go a little right or move this way or move that way and you eventually will hit the mark.
This is how they got to the moon. It’s a widely used analogy for example. The first time that we landed and departed the space ship to walk on the moon, this was a series of thousands of pivots, probably millions. I’ve never gone and researched how many micro changes in direction were made but those micro pivots are what helped them to get there. There isn’t a straight line in the universe anyway to hold us.
When JFK asked the scientists if we could go to the moon, do you know what the scientists said? If you believe we can, we can. That’s a huge statement if we think about it.
Our beliefs are often self-fulfilling prophecies. We can go back now and I suppose it almost seems even a little trite. At that time, the idea of going to the moon was literally insanity. By the end of the decade which I think he made that, he was speaking about that in the early part of his terms or early ‘60s, ‘61, ‘62 to say that. To throw the gauntlet down that by the end of this decade we would land and step foot on the face of the moon was ludicrous. Looking back, we’re about to land for the 18th or 19th time on Mars, not with human beings. Things for sure are a part of or in the realm of mindset. Sometimes, it’s in the corporate arena even though I do a lot of corporate speaking. We train people to do that thing.
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We are talking about what is the value of mindset to a tangible business or the actions that we take every day in business. It’s a huge reminder because in 1969 they had certain resources available to them to go to the moon like we have resources now available to take us to Mars. Everything necessary to put that into action, to develop it, to iterate, to practice, test, fail, pivot, move forward and ultimately succeed. Everything available in 1969 was available in 1869. All the resources were in the ground. We were not there mindset-wise. It would’ve been heresy or they locked somebody up in the loony bin to say that in 1869. We hadn’t even flown yet. The value of that bears reminding. Tell us a little bit more about the transition into the work you’re doing and how it is. I know you work with and coach and coach coaches so that’s both. I believe in the personal development arena but it’s also on the side of the business and on the side of business development in particular.
The transition was going downhill on a bike without brakes and it’s amazing. It’s several years now since I’ve downloaded the paradigm called Soul Language. We’re up to twenty coaches. I work with groups, I work with one-on-one and I work with business development. I’ve been lucky over the last couple of years to help people right now, marketing materials and ghostwrite books. It allows me to do a lot of the things I love. What has been amazing about the paradigm of Soul Language is that it puts tangibility to something that’s intangible which is soul. Not to put you in a box but humans love to have words for things. When they have words for things, they can connect in a conscious way.
What Soul Language does is it defines the three core energies of the soul, your mission, how you fuel that mission and then your soulful personality. We can do a personal soul and then a business soul as well. What’s funny about business people especially entrepreneurs is that they think that they are their business and they’re not. You call on a business to do something bigger first for yourself and then for others so it has its own agenda. I, like any other Soul Language practitioners, work with people to be conscious, to utilize their soul in a conscious way. Over the last few months, the phrase has come up on Facebook and here and there about, “My soul is crying. My soul is in pain,” and I’m like “No, your soul is whole and complete. It’s your humanness that is revolting.” Soul Language and what I do is help people align their soul with their humanness. It’s a structure to help the mind follow the heart.
Unpack that a little bit more because it’s one of those areas that we end up having a lot of discussion about is how it is that you speak from the heart, out of your head and into your heart.
Here’s a perfect example for everyone to play with. If you start looking in the mirror each day. Look in your eyes in the mirror and say that you’re enough three times. Your mind is going to start chasing why you’re enough. The mind’s job is to keep everything at status quo and the mind is based on the pattern. It’s based on keeping you safe while the heart is always geared towards your expansion and your goodness and sometimes those things are competing. When we say we allow the mind to follow the heart, what we’re saying there is we’re allowing the mind which creates structure and strategy to be guided by something that is geared towards goodness that knows that you are loved, whole and complete. When that happens, what occurs is freaking bliss because the mind will fill in the blanks of goodness. It will come up with the strategy of your greatest dream or your greatest vision.
It’s a question of what is the heart anyway? We know what the mind is. We have a sense of that. One of our clients wrote a book called An End To Upside Down Thinking which is about turning the paradigm. The book isn’t about turning the paradigm upside down. It’s exposing the fact that if you buy into this, materialism is about that the brain creates consciousness. That’s why when we die, our consciousness is extinguished according to traditional scientific belief systems, paradigms, teaching, etc.
The proof to the contrary is that consciousness exists outside of the mind or outside of the brain and the brain is the receiving set for consciousness. It exists non-locally and therefore when we pass, for example, consciousness doesn’t necessarily die at that moment. That’s extreme and that’s a lot of implications there. The idea that people understand that the brain is the thinking piece. Speaking from our heads is speaking from that logical knowing or the part of our brain that is designed to keep us safe, is designed to be right because being right means we’re safe, all of that amygdala stuff. The part of us that’s non-brain we call the heart.
That heart, that soul is that part of us.
Isn’t that our subconscious though? You’re intuitive and you help people.
It never feels that way to me. It doesn’t feel like something is buried. It always feels like a summer day. It feels pure and clean. When I talk from my heart, there’s this feeling of knowing that there’s something big out there. That I am this drop in this ocean of goodness. That’s why it’s exciting for people to understand what that soul and what that heart feels like to them because it’s personal. Soul Language puts silly human words around something that’s totally intangible so we can understand it or connect better with it. Understanding that heart and that soul is vast and it’s never boring. The moment that I think I’ve got a grasp on the total capabilities of that soul of Jen, something happens and I’m amazed. It’s that part of you that knows when you stand in front of a mountain that, “This is beautiful.” That’s that part of you that is unexplainable. When you see someone you love there’s that feeling of warmth. It’s all chemicals and we can dissect it, but there’s a part of us that knows that there’s something unexplainable within us that’s guiding us. I do this exercise with clients about understanding the baseline of their soul.
I’ll ask them to take a deep breath, focus on their tailbone, connect to their heart and I’ll go, “Ask your soul to vividly and clearly describe to you what the baseline of your soul is.” I’ll hear love, peace, freedom, all the big things and people will go, “That’s big or that’s general.” I’d be like, “Yeah, because that’s what soul is. It’s big. It’s in general. It’s cliché because our silly humanness can’t get the message so we keep getting it in several different ways.” I love this conversation because no one has ever brought this conversation to the table which I love about how to describe what the heart is. Soul, yes, but the brain is an instrument for us, the heart is an instrument to interpret the soul.
It’s a feeling instrument and to be in the feeling space, to be in a place where you could be guided by something that isn’t of the thinking mind puts people in a vulnerable space. From this perspective of communication whether it’s one-on-one or it’s one on a lot of people, to be able to access your heart through your feelings and to be safe doing it or to at least be safe in the vulnerability. You will be vulnerable. I’ve been on some very large stages and spoken from my heart meant I wasn’t scripted in that moment. I wasn’t coming from my head to pursue some agenda but was rather being present in the moment with what I was feeling and then guided to the words from that feeling space.
It’s incredibly powerful both for the person who’s doing it because it’s selfish at that moment. When you’re a channel for that communication, it is one of the most blissful feelings that I’ve ever experienced and I’ve done a lot of things that have brought me joy and bliss. This is one of the most incredible experiences. It is an incredible means to connect. Imagine being in China and you’ve got 12,000 people there that don’t speak English and yet you’re speaking from your heart. There’s translation happening and you have a room-full of connected souls.
I’ve traveled in Russia, I’ve traveled all of the world and wherever I go, people will come up to me in whatever language they speak and they will tell me their deepest, darkest secret out of nowhere. I go, “I know what you’re saying but I don’t know how I know what you’re saying nor do I know how to express fully. I’m going to stand here and listen and then I’m going to say something and we’ll see what will happen.” That’s about being connected and being open enough to know that we’re all connected and I think that’s huge. I always call that speaking to someone is listening. When you know yourself, when you’re connected, when you know your message and I’m not talking about knowing the words. I’m talking about knowing and embodying the message. When you can speak to someone who is listening, that’s huge. People walk away and they’ll be talking about that message to their friends, to themselves or they’ll be thinking about it one shape, form or another for years. You’ll stay with them and that’s about understanding who you are, accepting it, loving yourself and being connected to that thing we call soul.
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I’d love to know if you’ve got a ritual, a daily practice that you feel keeps you in that space that you’re describing. What does that look like?
I’m a renegade. I get bored easily. One of the daily practices I always do is I write an affirmative prayer. I love writing prayers. I’ll do that. I also love to sing. I know when I’m upset that that’s a time to sing to get all of that stuff out of me. That’s one of my rituals. Another thing of my ritual is I will ask myself a question. I’ll go, “Blah-blah-blah,” and I’ll go in the shower and before I’m done, that answer or that guidance has popped. Those are some rituals that keep me sane and connected.
I enjoyed this conversation. It’s incredibly interesting to me personally, valuable to me personally and I know for sure to our community as well. Jennifer, thank you so much for being on the show. I couldn’t imagine a more apt conversation for this show. Thank you for that.
Thank you so much. It’s been a pleasure and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed myself.
I’ll bring things to a conclusion. It’s funny because I always find myself resisting calling it an end because it’s really the beginning as we know. Where I’d like to conclude though is with how we began. It’s nice to bookend these things and see how cause and effect are one, supply and demand are one. The illusion of time is one of the greatest issues for us but in the present moment, there is no time. It is all collapsed. Nobody ever knows how several years pass by. We go, “It was several years ago, a second ago and now we’re here.”
We started with gratitude and the reminder is that we experience gratitude even when we don’t feel great and certainly when we least want to be grateful, there’s an opportunity to open up to gratitude. Everybody got to wake up this day, this I know. I can look in my crystal ball and know that everybody that’s reading this woke up. I don’t even have to know you and I know that was true. My affirmative prayer is that we all get to wake up again because that’s not a guarantee and it wasn’t guaranteed now and we don’t know what tomorrow brings. That’s a blessing.
When it is that you do wake up, that you have that blessing, you can be grateful in that moment. Knowing that there are people then and there right in that moment who are taking their last breath as you are taking your first conscious breath of the day. It is a special moment and babies will be born taking their first breath as well. It is in many ways something that is holy. I hope that you will remember these words when you do wake up. You realize you’re opening your eyes and you get to choose gratitude as not just the first thoughts of the day, but the first seeds that you plant both in your mind and in your experience of being.
That from that feeling of gratitude that you can even declare out loud something that is powerful and it’s changed my life, changed my experience of living more than anything else that I could think of. I gave a TED Talk on this topic which will be out. You can put your feet on the floor or stand up if you like. Declare out loud from the standing position, from the sitting, from the lying down position anywhere you like, “I love my life. I love my life. I love my life.” What if you decide to love your life no matter what and be grateful in that moment?
Jennifer, thank you so much and to our audience, you know we love those reviews. Please leave a review on iTunes or a comment at AdamMarkel.com/podcasts. Leave a comment and we’ll reply. We’d love to get your thoughts and feelings about things. You could certainly join our Facebook community or get access to other resources by going to StartMyPIVOT.com, access to the Start My PIVOT Facebook community as well as the six questions. It’s a kick start guide to determine where you are in your pivot whether it’s a micro pivot moment or maybe it’s something a little bigger that’s incubating as well. We look forward to connecting soon. Ciao for now.
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About Jennifer Urezzio
Jennifer Urezzio is the founder of Soul Language and a master intuitive who uses her intuitive skills to help raise consciousness. Soul Language is a paradigm to put tangibility to Soul.
She is the author of two books (available on Amazon): Soul Language Consciously Connecting To Your Soul for Success and A Little Book of Prayers. You can learn more at www.soullanguage.us.